In the past I’ve found Havi to be very helpful in helping me get through the stuckness in what I do.

I’ve drifted away lately and hadn’t been able to put my finger on why.

This post today, helped me to understand why I’m not engaging.

I’m an all-out-there person (you may have noticed) – if I tell it, I tell it. I find that Havi prefers to keep the detail of a lot of the things she is stuck with to herself. While I respect that, I’ve realised that *for my taste* it removes a lot of the colour from her writing.

This post, where there are 3 things with (for my interest) inadequate detail, followed by a [silent retreat] made me see what my problem is. I need a context. “I have a problem with a thing that happened” doesn’t engage me. “My neighbour called me a big fat donkey (pun intended) so now I have to check the hallway before leaving my flat” tells me a lot more both about the situation and the person in it.

I fully respect Havi’s need to keep things private and not share other people’s stuff or contribute to gossip. However, I think I personally would find a bit more context more helpful.

There’s probably more analysis to be done here – maybe I’m feeling hurt because I’ve been willing to share but someone else hasn’t? Whatever the deeper meaning, it will be interesting to see whether being aware of this helps me to stick with Havi more or drift on elsewhere.

In contrast, another blogger I can’t get enough of is Penelope Trunk. You couldn’t accuse Penelope of keeping anything close to her chest. However, there are only *some ways in which I want to be like her when I grow up…